Week 5 Chapter 4 Question 1

Removing yourself from a hostile situation, and having the ability to look at conflict and difficult situations from an unbiased perspective is an extremely difficult task. Emotions often get the best of people and they resolve their issues, or attempt to resolve their issues off impulse reactions and often times this is the worst solution. Personally, I react very quickly to conflict because I want it to be resolved in the quickest manner possible, however, speed is not always the best solution. The most important step in resolving conflict is the "time out" because its during this step that one can come up with a plan of attack, and organize thoughts to most effectively resolve the conflict at hand. Conflict and hostility are some peoples biggest fear because it often times breeds awkward situations and not knowing how to react or how what to say in hostile situations can be defeating.

Week 5 Chapter 4 Question 1

The best advice I can give someone who struggles with this step as mightily as I do, is come up with your personal “time out”. Whatever strategy works best for you, and no matter how long it takes. Go to the gym, read the newspaper, grab a bite to eat, whatever activity helps you to grasp the entire conflict, because only then can one move onto the next stage. My way of taking a time out is going to the gym. At the gym I can tune out the world, listen to my music, and focus on a task separate from the conflict, while still pondering ways to resolve it, once I fully understand the entire conflict. My mom on the other hand, likes to take her dog for a walk to clear her head and to fully analyze the situation. I noticed that often times when she gets into an argument or debate with my dad, or me, she excuses herself from the situation and walks her dog to get some fresh air, and be alone with her thoughts.

Week 5 Chapter 4 Question 1

I have personally found, as well as been told, that my biggest problem when it comes to resolving a conflict is that I get too far ahead of myself. I feel as though I am a fairly level-headed individual, as well as a good problem solver and mediator. However, my biggest problem is that I often times try and come up with solutions before the entire situation has been presented to me. In some instances, my resolution would be completely satisfactory and pertinent to the conflict, however, in other situations my resolution may be destructive or actually the opposite of what is needed to resolve the problem. Completing the first step in the S-TLC model is the most important because it allows one to completely gather all of the information needed to proceed to the next step which is “think” or as stated in the book, and more appropriately named, “analyze”.

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This is my 1st blogging experience, and similarly to many aspects of my life, I have shown up late to this realm as well. This is supposed to be an introductory blog, or a little look-in as to who I am.

In that case, I am a 5th year senior at SJSU, this is one of my last classes I need before I am a graduate of this somewhat fine institution. I am a RTVF major with a COMM minor, I know, scintillating stuff. I was born and raised in San Francisco and I honestly believe growing up in the heart of one of the greatest cities on earth provided with me more insight, knowledge, and overall understanding of a variety of cultures and ethnic groups. And with that encompassing knowledge, I can adapt to different situations and exchange information more fluidly with more people.

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